Linger, Laugh and Love

Europeans know how to dine. They make mealtime treasured moments spent connecting with family and friends. While Americans boast about eating in six minutes; people in other countries may sit for hours.

They enjoy each morsel of food allowing the digestive system to work slowly and effectively. This can also help with weight management. When we are able to pace ourselves while we eat, the brain has time to respond to the body’s physiological needs.

If we eat quickly, often times we eat far more than what is needed because the “full stomach” signal did not have time to make it to the brain.

This Thanksgiving, linger longer at the table. You have probably spent weeks preparing the meal—why not spend quality time enjoying it? Begin a new tradition and suggest everyone stay seated for at least 45 minutes before dessert is served.

Engage others in conversation between bites to make each one last. Try using “table talk” cards that allow everyone to answer questions to thought provoking topics. It will break the ice and give you the opportunity to learn more about the people in your life.

Consider incorporating this new way of eating into every family meal. When I think back on dinner times past— from my youth to the present time— I think of laughter and love. It may seem trivial but these are the precious moments of bonding you don’t plan for.

Let’s be real though; it’s not always pretty. Dinner with family may turn into a time to debate and dispute over difficult issues.

Oftentimes it is when families share their sorrows and victories and sometimes even express hurt and anger. That all depends on how well you listen.

If at least one person doesn’t storm off and slam a door on occasion—that is a clear sign your family may be dysfunctional. Without those times we may never know the intense joy and gladness that is family.

Shop and plan your family meals ahead of time so it is not overwhelming. Keep it simple and healthy and make dishes that everyone likes. If you have children, give them a menu choice and have them assist you in preparing it.

Be thankful next week for the blessing of food and family. Breathe between bites, have meaningful conversation and make it last.

Cherish the making of memories the week of Thanksgiving and continue the tradition a couple of days a week for the other 11 months of the year.

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